I’ve dedicated my life to progressing social justice, in the hopes that one day we can have a society that is equitable for all. ¬†I have a lot of reasons for doing this, but there are just as many reasons why it might be viewed that I shouldn’t.¬†

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As a white, straight, non-disabled, post-grad educated, man, most of the injustices in society actually work in my favor.  All of the privileges I talk about levying are privileges I can access.  I can go where I want, live where I want, love who I want, and be without fear for my health, worries of employment, or restrictions of rights.  And I want to change that?!

What’s worse: this life I’ve chosen is one that’s placed me well below the poverty line. ¬†I work hard, work a lot, and barely make rent and bills each month. ¬†Choosing to do this instead of taking an executive job, being a web designer, or – hell – even a server, I’m placing myself in a targeted group devoid of the privileges of health care and guaranteed food/shelter each month. ¬†This is a background I’m familiar with, and as such I don’t have any semblance of a “safety net” to catch me.

So there’re plenty of reasons I shouldn’t be in this line of work, writing for this website and performing my show. ¬†So why do I do it?

One reason is because of comments like the one below (originally posted here) from Rick:

You call yourself an advocate for social justice, when really you’re only a self-serving homosexual only interested in furthering his own agenda. ¬†Of course you don’t care about religious, racial, or class issues because as a¬†privileged¬†white kid who feels alienated, you have to direct all of your efforts to a non-issue. ¬†Boycotting marriage?¬†OK¬†great, check that one off the list. ¬†Now what else is it that you’re advocating? I’m at a loss here. ¬†Looking at the title “It’s Pronounced Metrosexual” really seems to imply that that’s what you are, a metrosexual. ¬†When really you’re just detracting from those that are¬†metrosexual¬†because its quite evident that you’re gay. ¬†If I were a straight guy who made a little site called “It’s Pronounced Homosexual” I’m sure I’d get all sorts of flack. ¬†So keep endorsing that double standard, it’s what you do best.

I didn’t feel like responding to Rick (if that is his real name, which I doubt!) directly with this, because there are some people on the interwebs who aren’t worth the time (they’re called trolls, and not the pink-haired kind with gemstone belly buttons). ¬†But I felt the need to respond in general to the Ricks of the world. ¬†Let’s break this down.

“You call yourself an advocate for social justice,” (yep, I do!) “when really you’re only a self-serving homosexual only interested in furthering his own agenda.” ¬†Whoa now. ¬†That got dark fast. ¬†First off, no. ¬†Secondly, even if yes, would that really preclude me from being an advocate for social justice? ¬†Can gay men not fight for their own rights? ¬†That seems odd, and somehow¬†unjust.

“Of course you don’t care about religious, racial, or class issues,” (do so!) “because as a privileged white kid who feels alienated, you have to direct all your efforts to a non-issue.” ¬†Wow. ¬†Okay. ¬†I’m definitely a privileged white kid, and sometimes I do feel alienated, but did you just call equity for people of diverse sexualities and genders a non-issue? ¬†Your true colors are starting to show here, Rick (if that is your real name, which I doubt!).

“Boycotting marriage? OK great, check that one off the list.” Checked.

“Now what else is it that you’re advocating? I’m at a loss here.” ¬†I call it equality. ¬†Or, as you called it, a “non-issue.”

“Looking at the title “It’s Pronounced Metrosexual” really seems to imply that that’s what you are, a metrosexual.” ¬†(“imply” is a weird word choice, I would have gone with “overtly state”),¬†“when really you’re just detracting from those that are¬†metrosexual¬†because its quite evident that you’re gay.” ¬†Two things here. ¬†One, don’t you¬†dare¬†question my allegiance to my metro brethren. ¬†And two, where’s this evidence? ¬†Have you seen that tape? ¬†Nobody was supposed to see that tape.

“If I were a straight guy who made a little site called “It’s Pronounced Homosexual” I’m sure I’d get all sorts of flack.” ¬†I think that site already exists.

“So keep endorsing that double standard, it’s what you do best.” ¬†I’m really confused at this point, but I’m not the type to look a gift horse in the mouth, so thanks for the compliment, Rick. ¬†You’re really a sweetheart underneath all of this misplaced aggression, aren’t ya?

Why do I do what I do?

I write for this site to provide resources, support, education, and encouragement to all those who want for a society where who one loves doesn’t dictate how they will be treated. ¬†I perform my show around the country to introduce young people to the idea that we don’t live in a just society (in many cases this is news), and to explain to them the importance of living in a way that promotes social justice. ¬†I do what I do because I’m not comfortable living in a society where people like Rick make the laws and enforce them. ¬†And I want to do everything I can to transfer that power into the hands of people who care more about other people, and less of themselves.

  • One reason I’m a social justice advocate (as a white, straight, male)